I don't know about you but as soon as I'd had my son, the question on everyone's lips was, 'Oh, are you going to have a little brother or sister for him?'. Give me a moment guys..... Just getting my head around one, let alone more than one. My journey to get Brae was a long one and we were definitely fully signed up members of the 'One and Done Club' but...well, life happened. Well, Covid happened and we started to feel a bit sorry for him being stuck with 'just us' so decided to give it ago to say that we tried and what was meant to be would be. Penny was born a while later and now they are tight little buddies.
But, how do you decide on having more kids. Having a second child is a big decision that can have a significant impact on your life and your family. Here are a few things to think about if you're considering growing your family...
Money: Having a second child can be expensive. There's probably budget needed for additional childcare, education, and other expenses, especially in the current climate. It's a lot to consider but there's potentially a lot you can save from having your first too such as buggies, cots etc. All those of those 'big buys' the first time round can hopefully be reused.
Time and energy: This is a big one right? Having one is usually a shock to the system so caring for a second child will require a whole heap of more time and energy investment, especially if you have a young child already. Having energy and a support system in place to take on the additional responsibilities of a second child is definitely something to ponder.
Relationship with your partner: It changed a lot after the first one right? So, does having a second child have an impact on your relationship with your partner again? Probably... It's important to have open and honest communication with your partner about your desires and concerns related to having a second child, and to make sure you are on the same page.
Impact on your current child: This is a biggie for most parents. How will having a second child impact your current child? As a first born, I was definitely not impressed when almost 3 years later I had to share everyone with my new baby sister (sorry mum and dad for being a cow). Depending on their age, your child may need to adjust to a new role as an older sibling, which can be challenging but often watching them take on that role is the most amazing thing too. Yes, it's a time of adjustment for them, and you and it's important to be mindful of your child's needs but there's a lot you can do to get ready for the new arrival as a family to help them adjust.
Ultimately, the decision to have a second child is a personal one that depends on your individual circumstances and priorities. It's important to carefully consider all of the factors involved and to make a decision that is right for you and your family. You do you. Ignore the questions enjoy your unit. If you want another, go for it, and yes, you will love them just as much as your first...something that seems impossible right?